Mend Your Broken Heart – Try Something New
To start a new habit only takes 3 weeks and bad ones can also be broken in 3 weeks. If you are still moping over your breakup and consumed over every little thing that wrong – STOP!!! We have to get up and start living again although it is quite typical to feel crushed for a long time after losing someone we care about. It’s time to start some new habits, so get out of those ugly old sweatpants and put away the junk food, we are going to heal your broken heart by trying something new!
First of all we need to stop some of the bad habits we are currently doing. Are you checking Facebook or Twitter every 5 minutes to see what’s your ex is doing? Are you casually bringing them up in conversations with friends you still share? We want our ex to have the same broken heart as we do and we want to know if they miss us too. Well, if you want to heal you have to make a conscious effort to break these habits. Whenever you are feeling that pull to check online or to bring up your ex, pinch yourself. Not lightly but hard! By becoming aware of these bad habits you can start to stop yourself from doing them.
Now that our arms are all red from pinching ourselves we need to start some new habits to help distract us from the ones we are trying to break. In order to feel good about ourselves again so our first new habit will be to complement ourselves. As weird as it may feel you need to sit down and write 10 things you like about yourself. It could be as simple as this:
10 Great things about me:
- I really look good in…
- One of my best skills is/are…
- I have great…
- My … is/are my best feature.
- I really love my…
- My … really kicks butt!
- I’m very…
- I’m also very…
- I’m really good at…
- I’ve very good at…
Now every morning you are going to get up and look in the mirror and repeat these 10 things and don’t squint your face up as you do it, act like you mean it! You will begin to believe it the more you say and you will start to once again like who you are.
Next we are going to join something new. Is there something you have always wanted to try? Running, rock climbing, creative writing or learning to cook? Choose something fun, you will not only learn a new skill but you will be forced to meet new people. These people will get to know the “real you”, not the “you” that you were with your ex.
Beginning new habits and trying something new will help keep your mind off what your ex is doing and soon you will stop thinking of them at all! Try these 2 things for 3 weeks and see how you begin to feel. Are you thinking about your ex less often? Are you beginning to feel more confident? Healing our broken heart takes time and we are just starting to retrain how we feel about ourselves.